5 Habits of Exceptionally Charismatic People
Are charismatic people born or made? There is an art and a science of charisma, and we’ve found the five habits that exceptionally charismatic people follow. Do you want to channel your inner charisma? In this video, we’ll show you why charisma matters and how you can positively infect everyone around you.
Can we bust a myth right now?
A common misconception is that highly charismatic people are perfect. That their charisma comes from their superior, skills, income or looks. But this is not the case at all! Being charismatic is about perfectly embracing imperfections. Wondering what on earth I am talking about? Let’s go to the science:
Habit #1: Embrace Imperfections
Psychologist Richard Wiseman conducted a study where two actresses sell a blender to mall goers. Actress one had a perfect presentation and produced a flawless smoothie to viewers. Actress two had a great presentation but “accidentally” forgot to tighten the lid and the smoothie splashed all over her. Can you guess who sold more blenders and who was rated higher by audience members? When we admit to weakness, others connect with us and see us as more likable.
Habit #2: Don’t Be A Conversational Narcissist
You have two ears and one mouth for a reason; wise words, indeed. Charismatic people know how to listen and listen well. They maintain the 2:1 ratio of listening to speaking. The easiest way to speak less and listen more is to ask tons of clarification questions. Instead of staying on the surface at networking events, dig deeper by asking follow-up questions and ask for examples.
Habit #3: Gush Don’t Gossip
Fact: when you speak ill of someone else people can’t help but associate that trait to you. So, if you say someone is mean and shallow–the person listening can’t help but assign those traits to you as well. Never, ever speak ill of others. If you want to talk about someone, try gushing. Pick someone who you adore and share all of their awesome qualities.
Habit #4: Hand Power
The best TED talkers used their hands to explain their words. The least viewed TED talks used an average of 272 hand gestures but the most viewed TED talks used 465 gestures! Crazy right? Why? Your hands are your trust indicators.
Habit #5: Deep Gazing
Studies have found that people who deep gaze–by noticing eye color or blink rate have a much stronger connection.